Dr Nikki Goldstein

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‘Am I normal?’ Sexologist tells Australians to relax when it comes to sex and relationships

Dr Nikki Goldstein is a sexologist with a desire to educate Australians on sex, love and relationships. She advocates letting go of the idea that there is such a thing as normal when it comes to adult sexuality. “[Sex] really is that one subject that everyone’s ears prick up when they hear it,” Dr Goldstein told Melanie Tait on 936 ABC Hobart. “They have a question about it, they have a curiosity about something, yet at the same time we’re so scared of it.” Dr Goldstein said this fear of talking about sex meant people often did not know if what they felt, desired or experienced was unusual. “Most of the questions come down to: ‘Am I normal?’ “The problem is there really isn’t such a thing as normal. “When we try to fit into what I call the should-do curse — how we should have sex, how we should…

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Q: Is monogamy or non monogamy natural?

A: This is one of those questions that we might never have an answer to. Many experts have tried to argue which is natural to the human race, with the arguments staying strong on both sides and still no winner. But there is a simple answer to this. It’s not if monogamy or non monogamy is necessarily natural in general but whether it is natural to you. Sometimes people use it as an excuse. If it were not natural for humans to be monogamous to each other than it would explain infidelity and those who have open relationships. But is it because it’s natural or not or because it’s what you want? I believe when it comes to this, we have a choice. We all have urges. I have an urge to each chocolate all the time but it doesn’t mean I’m going too or that it’s good for me….

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Q: How do i slow my mind during sex?

A: It can be difficult to shut off your mind from the daily stressors that occur and focus on sex. It might be thoughts of what you need to do, what has happened or insecurities that could arise in the bedroom. For woman this might see them become distracted, get caught in their heads and not be able to either enjoy the moment or achieve orgasm. For a man this could impact his erections and ability also to orgasm. So what do you do? Anything to slow your mind is the simple solution. 1. Do something relaxing before. You might want to sit down with your partner and have a glass of wine, enjoy a shower or bath together. Anything that gives a break between your hectic day and your bedroom activities and gives you a chance to unwind. 2. Foreplay. Either spend longer here or just have it in…

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Q: What are some of your masturbation tips for women?

A: You need to remember that when it comes to self pleasure and masturbation (I prefer to use the word self pleasure as I feel it has no limits) there are no rules. Whatever feels good for you is how you do it but it might take some time to discover what that is. But hopefully you have some fun trying to do it. Here are ten tips to help you along the way. 1. Make sure you relax your mind. You might find that thinking about something sexual that turns you on helps, or looking at porn or even reading an erotic novel. Some people find that stopping their mind altogether helps to focus more on the physical sensations of what’s going on. If that’s the case playing music can help. 2. Don’t rush. Times might not always be your friend but try not to put a limit to…

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