Dr. Nikki Goldstein

Feeling insecure in a relationship can be awful. Although there are some relationship insecurities that are totally normal, others can make you wonder if something is wrong with you. If you feel like you’re with the right person and that you’ve done everything you can to build a healthy relationship, the insecurity can be compounded by something else: frustration. It’s hard when you know you don’t feel good, but you don’t know why. If you’re constantly wondering to yourself, “Why am I feeling insecure in my relationship?” with no real answers, it may be time to delve a little deeper. I spoke to an expert to get some thoughts on questions you can ask yourself when your relationship isn’t feeling as great as it used to. 1. Is My Insecurity About My Partner Or Myself? Dr. Nikki Goldstein, a sexologist and relationship expert, says the most important thing to ask in…

Having babies can be one of the most beautiful gifts of life, so it seems unfair that one beautiful gift has the potential to negatively impact another – your sex life. First, you need to give yourself a break. And by break, I mean stop trying to be perfect, parenting is hard enough. Once you take the pressure of things outside of the bedroom, things in the bedroom might feel manageable. But you need to also take the pressure off yourselves to have a perfect sex life, too. What is a perfect sex life, anyway? Even those who are not parents are still trying to figure that out. When it comes to getting your sex life back (not perfect, back) understand that things WILL change. Not might but will. And that’s okay because nothing ever stays the same in life, especially once children arrive. Don’t fear it, embrace it. If…

So many women are slut-shamed. Even women who aren’t sexually active or sexually promiscuous in any way experience slut-shaming. “Slut shaming is so prevalent because it always has been,” sexologist and author of Single But Dating, Dr. Nikki Goldstein, tells Bustle. “For generation we have been shaming women for their sexuality and now with the media world it has become more acceptable in a way because the word “slut” nearly feels like a norm.” It’s not just when we’re children or teenagers that we experience slut-shaming. It happens throughout our lives. It doesn’t matter if we’re sleeping with lots of people, no one, if we’re single or married. We still come in contact with this behavior. “It impacts woman  because they might be acting on their own sexual desires or exploring their sense of self and are told by using that word that they are bad for doing so,” says Dr. Goldstein….

Let’s be real – there’s nothing quite like the feeling of finding a semi-normal person you don’t hate to hang out with. Except when said person has a pre-booked Europe trip you hadn’t factored into your plans… after just a few days/weeks/months together. For the person left behind, it’s bloody bleak. While they’re off gallivanting around getting a whole lot more than an A grade tan, you’re in the foetal position wearing stale pyjamas refreshing Snapchat every 30 seconds, wondering where the hell you stand and if you’re… together? Rather than torturing yourself with thoughts of what (or who) they’re doing, heed this expert advice to sort sh*t out before they set sail. Having ‘the talk’ According to Sexologist and Relationship Expert, Dr Nikki Goldstein, you might actually be doing yourself a solid by having this incredibly awkward and soul destroying conversation now rather than later. “So many people are wondering, ‘How do…