Apr
25

2017
I’m in a serous relationship and my partner and I want to stop using condoms

I’m in a serous relationship and my partner and I want to stop using condoms. I know we should both get tested but before we got together I was quite wild and did have a few drunken times where the condom came off. I’m so scared I have something. What if my test results come up showing this? Being in a serious relationship means things will come up that are potentially awkward. But sorting through these situations together is how you can potentially grow as a couple. Everyone has a past and there is nothing to be ashamed of. Things happen and safer sex mistakes can happen too. There is every possibility that your partner might have experienced something like this this too. If you are concerned about what the test will say, discuss it before. Tell your partner about your concerns without going into too much detail. We all…

Learn more...
Apr
25

2017
I’m dating a girl and the thought of her seeing someone else drives me crazy

I’m dating this girl I met online. I understand that when you meet someone online they are probably seeing other people but the thought drives me crazy. I’m not sure if I’m ready to be in a serious monogamous relationship, but I find myself getting so jealousy and curious about what she is maybe up to. What should I do? Sounds like you are in a bit of a situation here. There are a few possible scenarios going on and I’m going to try and challenge you on this. Are you a bit backwards in you thinking or suffering from the case of double standards? You are not ready to be faithful with this person but you are expecting this person to be faithful to you? Sounds like you might want your cake and eat it too. You need to ask yourself whether your view on this situation is due…

Learn more...
Apr
25

2017
I left my husband 2 months ago. When is the right time to move on?

I left my husband 2 months ago. I had been checked out of the relationship for quite some time but just needed to find the courage to say the words. We hardly talk and don’t have any sort of friendship, quite the opposite. I have met someone who I know there is a connection with but friends have been telling me it’s too soon or that I’m still legally married so I shouldn’t. But I have not felt married for a long time and I don’t see why I should be monogamous to someone who hates me. When is the right time to move on? The relationship is over when you say it’s over, no matter what paperwork there is. Entering a marriage and singing a piece of paper for some is a friendship recognised by the police. It’s legal stuff but does not control your heart or your mind….

Learn more...
Apr
25

2017
My husband and I have two small children and I’m struggling to find the time for sex

My husband and I have two small children and I’m struggling to find the time for sex. I know I should be making the effort but I’m so tired and worried my relationship will start to slip away. This is a concern of many couples who have children and it’s important not to put too much pressure on yourself or your relationship that it makes things worse. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship and you need to accept that having children is going to change things. But it doesn’t mean it has to change things for the worse. It important first to work out what you want from your relationship and your sex life and have this discussion with your partner. Goals should change along with the circumstances of the relationships and it’s important to discuss these and ensure you are both on the same page. I…

Learn more...