May
21

2018
Is marriage romantic?

As the rest of the world is in still suffering from wedding fever, I thought I would keep on theme. It’s as though the love bug has been spread thanks to Meghan and Harry and we all now believe in love again after the abundance of Hollywood divorces leaving the world thinking that love was dead. Watching the coverage, you feel like this is a real life fairy-tale, the type little girls are told to hold in their hearts when they grow up dating, in order to find their prince. But can we all stop for a moment and just focus on what finding love can really be like. It’s not always easy, it’s not always so pretty and the decision to get married is not always one of romance. We have all been brought up to think that marriage is about love, thanks to this type of fairy-tales. But…

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May
17

2018
Ask Dr Nikki – I Need My Vibe

Dear Dr Nikki, I have been dating my boyfriend for 4 months and after a few months of being sexual, I want to admit to him that I need a vibrator to reach an orgasm. He keeps telling me he wants to be the one to give me an orgasm. I don’t know how to tell him I need my vibrator without offending him. How do I talk to him about this? Thanks, Allie   Hi Allie, This is  a really common issue when it comes to women wanting to use vibrators. I’m assuming if you are saying you feel you need a vibrator to reach orgasm that you are talking about clitoral stimulation. As much as 80% of women reach orgasm through clitoral stimulation, so you are most certainly not in the minority here. The problem is for those women who prefer clitoral simulation, the clitoris is often missed…

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May
16

2018
Dating and Money – Who should pay?

Dating and money is one of those awkward situations we don’t seem to be able to get the handle of. It can also be a deal breaker if someone doesn’t at least offer or if going dutch is insisted upon? In the past, when woman were chosen to be dated, didn’t have jobs or independence, a man paid and that was that. There was no going back and forth with the bill and there was no bill debate.  But now in the age of feminism, jobs and choices, what should be the norm? I’m a somewhat old fashioned type of girl, but also an open-minded Sexologist, so I’m not going to just say a man should pay. Instead let’s try look at why a woman shouldn’t? That’s when the debate starts to get interesting because I can’t think of one reason why we can’t. It also doesn’t feel good enough…

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May
15

2018
Ask Dr Nikki – The Rules of Taking a Break

Dear Dr Nikki, My boyfriend and I have been together for two years and we have hit some tough times. We are just arguing a lot and finding that living together is a bit of a struggle. After we spoke about it, we decided to take a break but also wanted to make some rules about what that break means. We have decided to not have any contact for two months, but I also feel that it will be so hard to do. What are your thoughts and rules on taking a break?   Thanks, Kara   Hi Kara, Taking a break can be a scary word as it does sound close to the words breaking up. In some sense it is nearly a trial breakup to see if you could live life without each other, but it can be a great way to get some space from the issues…

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