May
12

2020
The Barriers To Forming A Connection

Working on my new podcast “The Connection”, I was able to gain access into the lives of my daters and insight into the issues that they faced. Putting this podcast together, we had a plan and an idea of where we were going, but our daters also lead us there. The biggest light bulb moment was realising that the most common struggle with dating really was how to form a connection and that everyone has their own stuff that could get in the way. This wasn’t about pick-up lines, playing games or timing the hours until you text that person back. I got to know my daters and they were all great people with lots to give but they were just not always able to show what I saw to someone else. This was not about traditional therapy and digging deep into their inner souls and past. This was about…

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May
08

2020
Things You Need to Know About Masturbation

May is Masturbation Month. So, in order to celebrate, I thought it might be useful to explore some of the things you need to know about this glorious act.   There is no right or wrong way We always want to follow a script or a norm when it comes to sex. It’s as though in order to belong and feel ok about what we are doing, we need to check in to see if others are doing it in a similar way too. Because most of us were not taught how to actually masturbate, there is still much confusion as to how this act should play out. Should there be an orgasm? Do you only stroke and touch genitals? Should it go for a particular amount of time? But there is no right or wrong way, it’s how you experience pleasure and how you want to do this. This…

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Apr
29

2020
The Relationship Pivot – From In Person to Long Distance

One of the corona trend words is pivot, recreating your career to fit into the limitations this virus has set upon us. But it’s not the only area of your life where you might need to pivot and change to fit in with the current landscapes. Depending on your circumstance, your relationship might have to pivot too. There has been a lot of talk about what is happening to those that are single during this pandemic and worries about couples who are driving each other up the wall at home. But what about those who are now having to do long distance when they had an in the flesh relationship before? I like many others have found myself in this situation. Whether it’s due to caring for other family members, safety concerns or work commitments, many couples have seen themselves separated from the one they love with no clear end…

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Apr
17

2020
Can What We Wear Impact How We Feel In Iso?

I don’t know about you, but my days in iso are spent either in gym clothes or t-shirts and shorts. I’m trying to continue to make a mindful effort in order to make myself feel nice, but as the days go on that gets harder and harder. And it’s all ok until a FaceTime or Skype call rings through. I am a big believer in what we wear can impact how we feel, so I suppose now, even though it’s not nights out and after work drinks and events we are going to, our fashion choices just might be more important than even before. For a little advice I turned to my good friend and stylist, Lydia-Jane Saunders.   Many of us are now isolated at home and the temptation to slum it with our fashion choices high. Is it important to still dress up or at least attempt to…

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