Jul
07

2017
So the person you’re casually dating is going to Europe. Now what?

Let’s be real – there’s nothing quite like the feeling of finding a semi-normal person you don’t hate to hang out with. Except when said person has a pre-booked Europe trip you hadn’t factored into your plans… after just a few days/weeks/months together. For the person left behind, it’s bloody bleak. While they’re off gallivanting around getting a whole lot more than an A grade tan, you’re in the foetal position wearing stale pyjamas refreshing Snapchat every 30 seconds, wondering where the hell you stand and if you’re… together? Rather than torturing yourself with thoughts of what (or who) they’re doing, heed this expert advice to sort sh*t out before they set sail. Having ‘the talk’ According to Sexologist and Relationship Expert, Dr Nikki Goldstein, you might actually be doing yourself a solid by having this incredibly awkward and soul destroying conversation now rather than later. “So many people are wondering, ‘How do…

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Jul
02

2017
Why dating after divorce is better than you think

While dating after a divorce can be daunting, relationship and sex expert, Dr Nikki Goldstein, says it’s actually full of golden opportunities. As we get older, there seems to be this rush to “work it all out”: have the career and find the ‘traditional’ family bliss we are taught is the key to a great life. Sure, this is the case for some, but it’s not for everyone. What if you were married, had children and it didn’t work out? Then what? Divorce used to have such a negative stigma. It was as though divorcees had failed at something or there was something wrong with you. But maybe some of us just aren’t meant to be with one person for the rest of our lives. Some relationships just don’t work. As we continue to grow throughout life, the choices we made when we were younger might not work for who we…

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Jun
27

2017
Being Single Is a Choice, So Stop With the Guilt Trip

As Gretchen Weiners from Mean Girls would probably say: “Oh my god, you can’t just ask people why they’re single.” The question is intrusive, personal, and, above all, none of your damn business. But for some reason, so many people feel the need to ask anyway, in which case, you can simply answer with: “I choose to be.” I asked sexologist Dr. Nikki Goldstein, author of Single But Dating: A Field Guide to Dating in the Digital Age, what the best response to that question is, and she dished out those four words without skipping a beat. Being single is a choice, plain and simple. In fact, you don’t even need to give family, strangers, or any other priers the luxury of an explanation. “It’s one of those offensive questions,” Nikki said. “You don’t even have to answer that if you don’t want to; it’s like saying, ‘Why is the…

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