Dec
31

2018
Why It’s important to talk about porn

You only have to look at the statistics to understand the enormity of the porn industry. Last year, according to PornHub, there were 28.5 billion visitors with 81 million a day and 50,000 searches a minute.  And that’s only one site. Yet, most people will publicly shun or not even talk about it. Look around, don’t you now wonder who isn’t looking at porn as opposed to who is? Have you also ever questioned why on the customs declaration form it asks you if you are carrying illegal pornography and what that even means? In a nut shell, anything violent and where someone looks underage is illegal. So even if the person in the film is over age, if they look young, it’s not allowed on our shores. But isn’t ‘looking young’ a matter of opinion? Is a tartan skirt and pigtails all it takes? When I investigated this, I…

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Dec
24

2018
Arguments are a part of life and love, but I’ve been getting it wrong

I saw an interesting quote the other day. It said, “couples who don’t argue keep secrets”. Also, around the same time, there was a study published revealing that couples who argue have a longer relationship. I’m a fan of a good get it out in the open session. I am a passionate person so sometimes there are tears, but I think as a couple, it’s in these so-called arguments or what I like to rename heated discussions, where there growth is had. The issue becomes if you can learn to overcome these sometimes-challenging situations or if they go on being unproductive and toxic. The often scary and awkward conversations are a part of life and love. Bust just as we are not taught how to be in a relationship, we are also not taught how to have a healthy argument or heated conversation with our loved one. If you are…

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Dec
16

2018
The Branding of Sex

Everyone these days refers to branding. What are you trying to portray to people, what does your colour scheme say, your logo, your front etc. But what about the branding of sex? It seems there are 3 strong stereotypes available to those who talk about sex and I apologise in advanced for the generalisation. 1. The stiff blazer wearing expert who looks like they wouldn’t know what good sex was if it hit them in the face. 2. The “sexy” person. The one that probably owns more sex toys than you do underwear and would sleep with anyone and probably has and 3. A sex and the city character who loves to dress up in amazing clothes and fabulous shoes and often wears colours that are associated with being feminine. But what happens if you don’t quite fit into the boxes that are available and are a little from 1,…

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Dec
10

2018
Why I’m a Birthday Brat And Why You Should be One Too

I’m a big birthday person, always have been. It runs in my family. I think some people must look at us and think we are a little crazy (which we are). Growing up my mother always put on fantastic parties for me and my brother. And on the morning of our birthdays, she would decorate the living room with posters and balloons and have lots of presents for us to open. Not in a spoilt way, but she would find any little thing that she could wrap up so we would get the excitement of unwrapping gifts. She would make a big deal of our special day and celebrate it as much as she could. And even though we are no longer kids, she continues this tradition every year. As soon as I got to the age where I could use a credit card, I did the same for her,…

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