Apr
19

2017
Victoria’s Secret is telling us who is sexy…and people aren’t having it

Victoria’s Secret has released their “What Is Sexy” winners on Monday, causing outrage and criticism that most of these winners are young white and thin. So what is sexy? Recently when playing on my phone, I heard my 6-year-old goddaughter singing and recording a video saying “I’m so sexy, I’m so sexy.” I asked her what she thought sexy was and she responded “sexy is being beautiful.” Not only was I mortified that she thought you had to be sexy to be beautiful, I was baffled as to how I was going to explain to her what sexy was. As a Sexologist, I’m supposed to be able to answer this question, right? As much as I do enjoy their underwear, Victoria Secret has gotten sexy wrong. Not to say that their sexy winner’s list is not that, but their sexy winners list does not define what sexy is. They are…

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Apr
18

2017
Should teenagers be allowed to be mums?

The hot debate at the moment surrounds the rights of teens to keep their babies after falling pregnant at a young age. What’s the answer? Sometimes I wish we would stop looking for blanket answers to these questions and rather consider each individual case and also explore the bigger issues. In 2015 there were 70 mothers aged just 15 and 190 aged 16. It has been reported that teenage pregnancies have fallen slightly over the past decade, but the number of 15-year-old mums remains constant. So, what’s right? The difficult thing is at this age, for many women our bodies are made and ready to have children. It’s only the societal and cultural view these days that has extended the age of appropriate motherhood. Biologically nothing has changed. It doesn’t make it right for every 15-year-old to have a baby, but it does make the issue complex. Because a woman’s…

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Apr
18

2017
Seven Year Switch: ‘Dirty’ vibrator horrifies viewers

So Seven Year Switch has started and it’s gone off with a bang (or rather a buzz) when one contestant Kaitlyn revealed she was packing her vibrator which was looked on in disgust by her partner and some viewers (see the video here). Now of course I’m going to be in support of her vibrator use, but thought it might also be time to set a few tweets straight. Photos online surfaced of her plastic friend close up which revealed what appeared to be some dirt or marks (that I can’t explain except for possibly where she keeps it) but also the size of the items came under questions and criticism. This vibrator was rather large but it’s a particular type of vibe and doesn’t get inserted as some might first think. This wand is a take off of the original Hitachi wands that appeared in the 60’s as a…

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Apr
11

2017

It means that you are normal. When you have an orgasm by your own hand, who is around to watch you, to put pressure on you or to even judge you? No one. You can relax, enjoy it and do exactly what you want to do to reach that ‘Big O’. Often it’s this relaxed state of mind which is the best tool to get a woman there. You can make loud noises, be in random position and use whatever object you please. There is no one is for you to be concerned about what they think and about their sexual needs. You are able to tap into the sexual responses that your body elicits and enjoy those. However, when you bring another person into the mix, it can halt the ability to orgasm due to more thoughts that might be happening upstairs. You might start to consider their needs,…

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