Jun
19

2018
Busting the Myths of Relationship Memes

If you have been following my social media accounts, you will be aware I like a relationship meme. It gives me a chance to share a bit of my mind with followers in short form and on a medium people pay attention to. However, it seems social media is flooded by inspo quotes and memes, but when you look closer, not all of them make sense and could be contributing to our negative expectations of life and love. It doesn’t’ just have to be a relfie of a couple in love, but a quote that sounds beautiful but really contains many flaws. So, I decided it was time to choose a few of my faves and pick them apart. Whilst inspirational quotes and memes might be empowering and encouraging, you also need to be careful what you really believe. “Being in a relationship with someone that doesn’t treat you right…

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Jun
12

2018
Ask Dr Nikki – Too Tired For Sex

Hi Dr Nikki, Me and my partner both work full time, exercise a lot and do a lot of extra activities on the side which means our days are long and we’re wrecked by the time we get into bed and in period of high stress, sex is pretty much at the bottom of our to do list (pun not intended). Do you have advice for how to combat this sort of thing? If feels like by the time we get home, cook dinner, prepare for the next work day and get time to sit down and relax, it’s already bed time because we’re both up so early and I think we are stuck in the mentality that getting enough sleep trumps having sex. Thanks, Julia    Dear Julia, One of the problems facing many couples these days is a lack of time for sex. We all seem to be…

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Jun
11

2018
Barnaby got one thing right…

Saying the words Barnaby and right is not something I thought I would put in the same sentence. I know I am late to the party with my two cents on last Sunday night’s tell-all interview, but that’s because I’m not sure I have too much to say. After another run-in with the paparazzi and claims that this interview was to stop this so-called harassment, it encouraged me to look at what did go right with their tell-all talk. Their story might have not stropped interest, but Barnaby did make one interesting and very right point. “You show me someone who has a perfect marriage and I’ll show you a perfect liar.” Barnaby might not have delved too far into his marriage, but this line is the most significant I’ve heard come out of his mouth. No one has the perfect marriage yet everyone seems to be trying to get…

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Jun
05

2018
Why I Took My Dad To A Sex Toy Expo…

If you have been following my adventures on social media, you will be well aware that I recently attended the Adult Care Expo in Shanghai (in a nut shell a sex toy convention). I also took my Dad with me with many people making interesting comments and asking why. When you have been a sexologist for quite some time, you often forget that the things you think are normal sound strange and crazy to others, this being one of them. The reason I took my Dad is because he is a businessman and is very good at advice. (plus he is a lot of fun to travel with). Whilst at the expo, you could forget for a moment that we were talking to people about vibrators and sex dolls and it felt as though we were discussing nearly any product that needs to be manufactured. There are moulds to be…

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