Mar
22

2019
Are negative thoughts destroying your relationship?

It saddens me that as I write this, I feel like there is so much hatred around. And I suppose these days we are exposed to so much more thanks the way we consume media, which feels like it’s non-stop and all around us. I have begun to see this parallel though and I’m conflicted about it. We are a society that is constantly talking about trolls online and bullying, but we are the same society that aggressively and public condemns anyone that expresses their opinion that might not be in line with the majority, might be a bit controversial or offends someone.  We are telling people online not to hate on someone’s post or photo and to refrain from online bullying, yet so many of us seem to partake in some form of bullying ourselves. Someone speaks out or has a public opinion and then there is a petition…

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Mar
15

2019
Why Do People Cheat?

Infidelity fascinates me. I don’t want to take any pain away from those who have suffered as a consequence, but my fascination is in the ‘why’. People have made theories and even excuses, but when someone cheats, we all seem to jump on the bandwagon and think of them solely in a negative way. When the Ashley Maddison scandal hit, millions of people’s profiles were at risk. Yes, millions! And that’s only considering the people cheating on this one site. Look around you. Think of the people you have in your life. The odds are that at least someone you know, someone you work with or run in the same circles as either has a secret account like this online or is actively cheating. Infidelity is all around us. How many stories do we get told about a spouse cheating? But instead of simply accusing someone of having an evil…

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Mar
08

2019
Financial independence can help women to find balance in love

Today is International Women’s Day and whilst I had an entirely different blog planned, I thought this was the one moment to really celebrate women and the progress we have made. But also, there is a word we need to celebrate and pass on to future generations of women – independence. And in particular, financial independence. But it’s just not a matter of money making the world go around, it could help women to have equality when it comes to love too. The blog I had originally planned to publish was exploring infidelity. Recently, I have spoken to a few people who are and have been impacted by this in their lives. On many occasions, I have been told that someone knew of what was happening on the side but due to the lifestyle they were provided, did not want to admit to it openly out of fear of then…

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Mar
01

2019
Could Cycle of Resentment Be the One Commonality Ending Relationships?

January 8th is known as ‘divorce day’ as it seems to be the most popular day people start divorce proceedings. Why? There has been struggles building towards the end of the previous year but it gets close to Christmas and people are busier, often pushing relationship issues under the rug. There might be plans for the holidays and no one feels like tearing a relationship apart just before the time of year when family is supposed to be close. Bringing in the new year makes us reflect on what has been going on more and focus on starting the new year different and fresh. If someone has been thinking about getting out, sometimes this pattern helps to give them a bit of a push. It’s not secret I analyse relationships for a living. I once was a family mediator, assisting couples through separations and I got to see the most…

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