Feb
22

2019
The most common questions a sexologist gets asked and what you need to know about them

These days, I don’t always like to tell people what I do because when I utter the words ‘sexologist’, the questions come flying. Don’t get me wrong, if you meet me, I am more than happy to answer, but I also have times when I wish I could clock off. So, after my many years of talking to people about the most intimate parts of their life, I thought it might be good to put together some of the most common questions I get to help those out that don’t find me in the flesh. Instead of just answering these questions because that would be boring, I’ve decided to point out what is wrong with the question in the first place. When it comes to sex and relationships, sometimes the problems are the questions themselves. How do we spice things up? I love and loathe this question at the same…

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Feb
08

2019
Could watching ‘Married At First Sight’ be beneficial to your relationship?

Married At First Sight chaos has hit our screen once again and is proving to be the most talked about show on TV, but not always for the right reasons. From a rating perspective, it’s fantastic, but there has been a lot of heat surrounding the show with body shaming comments, ghosting, emotional abuse and toxic relationships. Everyone has an opinion and everyone wants to share it. But this year I’ve seen more fire pointed towards the network than ever before. It’s been more the articles online, the recaps and the comments that is really grabbing my attention. And I feel as though many of us are missing a strong point. I have seen some comments saying that 9 should not have put characters on the show and that they are even responsible for glamorising toxic relationships. TV glamorises most things that are bad for us, so why should a…

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Dec
31

2018
Why It’s important to talk about porn

You only have to look at the statistics to understand the enormity of the porn industry. Last year, according to PornHub, there were 28.5 billion visitors with 81 million a day and 50,000 searches a minute.  And that’s only one site. Yet, most people will publicly shun or not even talk about it. Look around, don’t you now wonder who isn’t looking at porn as opposed to who is? Have you also ever questioned why on the customs declaration form it asks you if you are carrying illegal pornography and what that even means? In a nut shell, anything violent and where someone looks underage is illegal. So even if the person in the film is over age, if they look young, it’s not allowed on our shores. But isn’t ‘looking young’ a matter of opinion? Is a tartan skirt and pigtails all it takes? When I investigated this, I…

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Dec
24

2018
Arguments are a part of life and love, but I’ve been getting it wrong

I saw an interesting quote the other day. It said, “couples who don’t argue keep secrets”. Also, around the same time, there was a study published revealing that couples who argue have a longer relationship. I’m a fan of a good get it out in the open session. I am a passionate person so sometimes there are tears, but I think as a couple, it’s in these so-called arguments or what I like to rename heated discussions, where there growth is had. The issue becomes if you can learn to overcome these sometimes-challenging situations or if they go on being unproductive and toxic. The often scary and awkward conversations are a part of life and love. Bust just as we are not taught how to be in a relationship, we are also not taught how to have a healthy argument or heated conversation with our loved one. If you are…

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