Apr
25

2012
Love Story 1

Well it might have taken a wile, but on day 2 of my quest to have my faith in marriage restored, the emails starting coming in.This one was sent in by Sky.   We met at school, friends of friends. She chased all the way through school, she was the straight smart kid and I was trying to be the cool kid.  She persisted and persisted and eventually i asked her out after we went to the movies.  We watched Deuce Bigalow… i am such a catch. lol    We got married at 23, after 6 years of ups and downs (mostly ups or i wouldn’t have married her!). We talk well and get along well even if we don’t always agree. We had the same goals with family and life in general and just seemed to fit. It comes easily (most of the time, not always).We both have big close families and loved kids so we…

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Apr
23

2012
Restore My Faith In Marriage – I Need Your Love Story!

I have a confession to make, I’m still scared of marriage! I came from a profession where I divorced people for a living, and now I deal with relationship and sexual problems, so can you blame me?   When I was working as a family mediator, I would sit in an office and play witness to people scream and cry at me and each other. I only saw the negative side of relationships, not the positive ones. After a while of seeing this, you start to question and wonder why anyone gets married these days.   I am not in the field where you would normally talk me to when things are all happy and rosy (or maybe you are and are trying to improve on that still). I’m  usually the one you contact when you are looking for advice and when things are not going so well. Sometimes it…

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Apr
18

2012
Porn Stars Are People Too

If the names, Alexis Texas, Nina Mercedes, Mr Pete or Jessica Drake don’t mean a thing to you, then I’m sure Ron Jeremy does. The one thing these people have in common, they are world famous porn stars, the other, I have gotten to know them, spend time with them and are happy to call them friends and colleagues.   Before I became a Sexologist, I must admit I didn’t think much of porn stars. There are so many negative beliefs we have in society about why they get into this line or work and what kind of people they are. They get painted as sex crazed, drugged up, low moral citizens of this earth. There is also the belief that they come from broken homes, abusive relationships and are cashing in on their bodies to support their drug habits. There is such an emphasis on the money because no…

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Apr
16

2012
Yes, I am Going To Talk About Anal

The other  weekend I attended a workshop on anal sex by Tristan Taormino, an American sex educator. Whilst most people spent the Easter long weekend with their families eating chocolate ( or matzah balls), I spent mine learning the ins and outs of this particular sexual activity ( and watching couples demonstrate during their  “practice” session)   We live in a society where anal sex is still seen by so many as taboo. Some see it as wrong, dirty or an act that only porn stars do, whilst other think it’s only for homosexuals. Before I go any further (or deeper) anal sex does not make you gay and it actually feels good for both men and women if performed correctly and safely. If you are a straight guy who would never be a willing receiver in anal play because you think any type of anal sexual activity makes you…

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