nikkigoldstein

Jul
20
2018

I Completed a 6-month shopping diet, so what did I learn?

This week marks the completion of 6 months for my shopping diet. Back in January, I knew things had to change. I felt time poor and knew I was spending too much time and money purchasing things I didn’t need. I would scroll through one particular online site (and I won’t mention them in a bad way cause I still love them) spending hours making wish lists and sending more clothes to my front door. I would have a meeting in the city and wander the shops for an hour or so feeling guilty for every moment that passed and every purchase I made. It was as though I felt a rush of happiness when I got something new but it soon followed by anxiety and guilt about the money I was spending. I no longer enjoyed shopping and felt anxious because I knew I shouldn’t be. Before I sound…

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Jun
22
2018

Breaking up with friends

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When I was asked to do a segment on friendships breakups, I wasn’t expecting the volume of comments that it received. It would seem that in our lives, at some point we have all experienced a friendship ending and still have so much guilt or sadness about it. Over the years, I have seen friends come and go. Often it was a case of losing touch, having different interests, but other times it was due to a negative incident that couldn’t be overcome or a relationship that started to feel toxic or one sided. Even the ones where things ended for good reasons, I still feel sad about. Buy why? As kids, we are taught to be friends with everyone. But never does anyone say it’s ok not to like someone and to distance yourself from them. There is this guilt that in an ever changed fast paced world, we…

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Jun
20
2018

Feeling the pressure of “I Do”

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Dear Dr Nikki, My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 3 years. I have always been the type of person who goes with the flow, but lately, people have been asking me when are we going to getting engaged and I have become a little anxious about it all. I don’t know if it’s because we have been together 3 years or because people are asking me more, but I feel like I’m questioning whether he really wants to be with me if we are not engaged. I don’t want to be that girl, but I also feel like I’m going a little crazy. How do I calm down about all of this? Holly Hi Holly, I feel like what you are asking is very normal and happens to most people. When you are dating, people ask you when you are you going to move in, when…

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Jun
19
2018

Busting the Myths of Relationship Memes

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If you have been following my social media accounts, you will be aware I like a relationship meme. It gives me a chance to share a bit of my mind with followers in short form and on a medium people pay attention to. However, it seems social media is flooded by inspo quotes and memes, but when you look closer, not all of them make sense and could be contributing to our negative expectations of life and love. It doesn’t’ just have to be a relfie of a couple in love, but a quote that sounds beautiful but really contains many flaws. So, I decided it was time to choose a few of my faves and pick them apart. Whilst inspirational quotes and memes might be empowering and encouraging, you also need to be careful what you really believe. “Being in a relationship with someone that doesn’t treat you right…

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