Boundaries and Consent in the ‘Me too’ Era

We have heard statements like “me too” and “times up” so often in the media and I feel as though in the dating and hook-up world, there is a sense of fear as to what this all means. It’s great that woman are now speaking up and are being heard instead of urged or paid to keep quite. Yes, we need to acknowledge that there are and will be a cetin number of cases where fame and validation is the aim, but if women are now going to be heard for injustices that were once and still being done against them, then this is the unfortunate negative consequence with some innocent men suffering as a result. What we need however is more conversations around consent so the words harassment and inappropriate behaviour don’t have to be used. It’s not so straight forward as saying yes or no. Firstly, an individual…

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Is Porn The Problem?

Is there really such a thing as sex addiction and porn addiction? This has been a topic debated with no real conclusions and many conflicted theories. Whatever side you stand on, one thing is clear – we are so quick to demonise anything that has to do with sex, especially pornography.   But how many people are really affected by porn? It amazes me how sometimes when a women catches her partner looking at porn they automatically jump to the conclusion he has a problem. It also amazes me how some men still feel the need to hide their love for porn. Maybe it is because it is hidden that sends the message it is something bad. What comes first, the chicken or the egg and what is the real problem, men hiding pornography use or women scolding them for it? If there were nothing to hide, what message would…

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