Divorce Day

There is a particular date at the start of the year that has become to be known as “Divorce Day”, a day where people most commonly split up. It might not also just be this day but also this time of year (being the beginning of the year). If there have been things going wrong in a relationship, people often don’t want to split up before the holidays or they think they might be able to hold on and make it work. But when it comes to a new year, often people start to think of what they want in life and what they want to achieve, reflecting back on their relationship, reassess the way things have been.

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I’m calling BS on celeb split announcements

Original published in WITH the news of Channing and Jenna splitting after nearly nine years of marriage, romantics all over the world have been left doubting the possibility of that precious promise, “til death do us part”. But after reading yet another romantic and positive split statement from a happy, separating couple, it’s time to call BS on this Hollywood trend of the romantic divorce. Channing and Jenna have chosen to “lovingly separate as a couple” with “nothing changed about how much we love one another” and they are just “two best friends realising it’s time to take some space and help each other live the most joyous fulfilling lives as possible”. So why divorce? If you really love each other, surely you can work it out? Channing Tatum and Jenna Dewan didn’t wake up one morning and suddenly decide to lovingly separate. I know love isn’t always enough,…

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The Reason Men And Women Deal With Break Ups Differently

Break ups. They’re never fun. The tears, the anger, the messy nights out and the emotional eating are all telltale signs of a heart in torment. So, if men and women are capable of feeling emotional pain when a break up occurs, why is it so hard to understand why he’s ‘being distant’ or she ‘still wants to be friends?’ Well, the reason for this is linked to the social role relationships play and how they feed into our perceptions of self-worth, as well as the fundamental ways men and women deal with the same emotions differently. “Studies have shown that both men and women derive self-esteem from being in a relationship, so both genders suffer a sense of loss and identity conflict when a romantic relationship ends,” psychologist Melanie Schilling told HuffPost Australia. “Interestingly, the research has found that men and women experience different types of loss after a break-up. Generally speaking, men…

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Should Couples Commit To Marrying For A Decade Instead Of Forever?

It isn’t working for so many. As a former family mediator and the person who seems to hold the relationship secrets of others, I have often wondered, “Is any married couple happy?” It might sound overly negative, but when you consider our divorce rates (some say nearly 50%, others 1 in 3) you can’t ignore that it isn’t working for so many. As a solution focused Sexologist, I have always been fascinated at what we might be able to do differently. Last year I reported on the idea of the ten-year marriage contract, which is a document you sign that can be renewed at the ten-year mark and committed to for another length of time. It can also be ended with two people completing a contract instead of failing at a marriage.  This was not my idea but one I found from a woman in New York, Emma who is…

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