When Covid-19 first started my phone rang hot. Everyone wanted to know how this was going to impact those in relationships and those trying to date. For the first time since Tinder, we had an element of dating and relationships that people had not seen before. Many first thought that those in relationships would get time to work on things and spend quality time with their significant other. But as time went on, we saw a slight increase in what we now called Covid breakups. But is Covid to blame or were the issues these couples were facing just accelerated thanks to lockdowns and isolation?
Lately, there has been this shift in sex toys with these pleasure objects becoming more popular in the mainstream. By that I mean we are seeing them advertised more openly and more celebrities and influencers promoting them. We are also seeing them pop up in mainstream stores that until recently have not stocked adult pleasure products. Whilst I applaud this move, I am also cautious. There is this notion out there that sex sells, which can be true in many instances. But there are also many brands and organisations that use sex and sexuality to sell something in a way that is not sex positive or harmful to particular group of people. Does sex always sell and should we be selling sex toys more in the mainstream?
Even though publicly we seem to embrace imperfection these days, in some areas of our lives we also strive for perfection. But what is perfection? Is there even such a thing and can we define it? One area where I don’t believe it belongs is in relationships and it shouldn’t even be our aim. Being a Sexologist, many people think that I would have the perfect relationships but I am not perfect and I’m happy to declare that. I’m not perfect and neither are you and that’s completely ok.
In 2020, two common things happened to relationships. Either people spent more time at home working on them or realised during this time at home that things were not working out. In my personal life, I supported many friends through breakups and divorces. And in doing this, it also taught me an important bit of relationship advice… to make sure you speak up and have a voice.