Valentine’s day is one of those days I feel can set us up for disappointment. Some people feel down because they are single (but being single can be the best fun). Others can feel let down by what they partner might not have done. But there are some ways to really enjoy Valentine’s Day and maybe even give it a new meaning.
I’m asked all the time what I think the biggest things people do wrong in relationships are. I often don’t like limiting people to a wrong and a right as we are all different and so are our relationships. But there is one thing I have come across that can be damaging… expectations. It doesn’t mean we shouldn’t expect certain things of our partner, but often this idea of expectations goes too far and people are left looking at their relationship against a comparison of false reality. They might also have an expectation that they have no idea where it first came from or even what purpose it serves.
It seems most of us want to have a healthy or successful relationship. But what does that mean? Is it being together for a certain period of time? Is it having sex a certain amount per week? Or not having arguments? What really is the right measures of relationships.