I woke up yesterday morning to a news story on Sunrise about George Clonney possibly being single and once again his beliefs on marriage came under fire. George married Talia Balsam in 1989 and they were divorced in 1993 and after this, he said he would never marry again. This is always a hot topic with media and this belief can rub people the wrong way. But here is the thing, he said he was never going to marry not never going to commit to someone else or be in a relationship. Here is the other thing, he might also be happy the way he is. Should we be calling him a forever playboy or just brave for working out what he wants in life and standing up for it publicly.
We live in a society that puts so much pressure on marriage as the ultimate happiness. But for some couples and some who have been together for quite some time, marriage can come with a lot of unwanted pressure that plays havoc on the relationship. If someone does not want to get married, it does not make them any less of a person. But for some people, as marriage is their ultimate happiness, they can not father how anyone else can be happy without it and will put the pressure of everyone else around them to walk down the isle and be ‘as happy as them.’
I support George’s choice as he stood against social beliefs to decide what it is he really needs to do with his life to make himself happy and what works for him. If only the rest of us could stop listening to social pressures and trying to fit into a mould and stand up for what works in our lives and against what everyone else thinks we should be doing.
One day I hope to meet the ‘should be’ police. Who decided we ‘should be’ doing anything? Yet we all at some stage in our lives abide by rules ( should be rules) that really no one ever created. What ‘should you be’ really doing with your life?
Happy getting married or not getting married, as long as you are not doing it because you think you ‘should be,’