My partner wants us to watch more porn together

My partner wants us to watch more porn together. I used to enjoy watching it on my own but I found when we turned it on together it didn’t have the same results. Instead of feeling turned on by it I felt disconnected from my partner because he was just looking at the screen so much and not into my eyes (something that always got me going). I want to be able to enjoy porn again but how do I balance my relationship within our porn watching.

This is something many couples don’t think about when watching porn in a relationship. We so often talk about the potentially negative roll modelling of porn or if someone is watching it too much but because so many commonly see this as a solo sport, there is not as much discussion out there about how to do this effectively in a relationship.

For some couples, sex whilst starting at a screen doesn’t bother them but for others who are more focused on closeness and intimacy, looking away from each other can pose a problem. You can try and have the noise on in the background or limit your looks to the screen but that can also feel over managed and controlled, not allowing much room for free thought.

Try and watch porn as part of foreplay. As sexy entertainment before you get into things. Choose something you both like and make an agreement that you will not have sex whilst the movie is on. This will allow for you to take the effects of porn back into your own sex life. Watching it like this might give you a similar thrill to if you are watching it on your own except this time you are able to act on your desires with someone straight away

Think of porn as the warm up, something to get your blood rushing, not the third person in the room.