Q: Why do we watch lesbian porn if we are straight?

A: Some straight people like to watch gay porn but yet some gay people like to watch straight porn? Is it a matter of us wanting what we can’t get or is there more to it? People tend to overanalyze this one, diving into it with thoughts such as  – maybe he/she is secretly gay? Maybe my partner is bisexual? But it is completely normal and the type of porn you watch does not have to do anything with changing your sexual orientation or even representing your sexual desires.

Watching porn is often about fantasy and fantasy is a free space. It doesn’t have to make sense, there doesn’t even have to be anything behind the decision to what a particular type of porn. Sometimes we fantasize about things we want and desires in our every day lives  and sometimes those fantasize are just things that pop into our heads with no further explanation.

Sometimes our choices in porn can also have to do with no wanting what we can’t have but watching what we don’t do. It might seem nearly boring to watch an act that you commonly engage in and more fun to watch something new and different that you don’t do or can’t do – just for curiosity or variety.

So don’t stress about the type of porn you or your partner watch – just like in life, actions speak more than words or maybe in this case, actions speak more than choices in porn.

– Dr Nikki G