advice for couples

Mar
27

2020
How A Pandemic Might Impact Your Love Life

There is not one person who isn’t impacted by coronavirus. Never before has most of the world been united in one battle. We are also facing an impact on our relationships and dating lives. I’m not going to use the words ‘unprecedented’ as the changes we have seen to our dating and sexual lives has been just that for many years. The pill changed how women could have sex and apps changed the way we can date. So, this is just that, another change and we need to learn how to adapt to it, as least for the while being. In the next coming weeks, I will focus my hardest on producing content for you that is useful and informative and will try and bring as much ‘pleasure’ into your lives. I am also encouraging you to reach out to tell me your stories, submit your Ask Dr Nikki questions…

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Mar
01

2019
Could Cycle of Resentment Be the One Commonality Ending Relationships?

January 8th is known as ‘divorce day’ as it seems to be the most popular day people start divorce proceedings. Why? There has been struggles building towards the end of the previous year but it gets close to Christmas and people are busier, often pushing relationship issues under the rug. There might be plans for the holidays and no one feels like tearing a relationship apart just before the time of year when family is supposed to be close. Bringing in the new year makes us reflect on what has been going on more and focus on starting the new year different and fresh. If someone has been thinking about getting out, sometimes this pattern helps to give them a bit of a push. It’s not secret I analyse relationships for a living. I once was a family mediator, assisting couples through separations and I got to see the most…

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Jul
19

2017
This is the secret to great sex after kids, according to a sexologist

Having babies can be one of the most beautiful gifts of life, so it seems unfair that one beautiful gift has the potential to negatively impact another – your sex life. First, you need to give yourself a break. And by break, I mean stop trying to be perfect, parenting is hard enough. Once you take the pressure of things outside of the bedroom, things in the bedroom might feel manageable. But you need to also take the pressure off yourselves to have a perfect sex life, too. What is a perfect sex life, anyway? Even those who are not parents are still trying to figure that out. When it comes to getting your sex life back (not perfect, back) understand that things WILL change. Not might but will. And that’s okay because nothing ever stays the same in life, especially once children arrive. Don’t fear it, embrace it. If…

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Jun
27

2017
This Is When You Should Start Having Sex With The Person You’re Dating

I never know when to have sex with the person I’m going out with. Well, obviously, I should have sex whenever I want to. Two (or three or four or five) consenting adults should have sex whenever they would like. But there are all these rules that confuse me. Don’t have sex on the first date, because no one will buy the cow if they can get the milk for free (women are cows, apparently). Wait until the third date — yeah, the third date is definitely the right time to have sex! Actually, wait until you’re monogamous. Wait, no,  just wait until you’re married! To settle the question once and for all (although, is there any one-size-fits-all answer, really?), I asked Dr. Nikki Goldstein, expert sexologist and author of Single But Dating: A Field Guide to Dating in the Digital Age, about when you should start having sex with…

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