The New Mating Call – Cock Shots!
This post is to all the men out there who have ever sent me a photo of their penis! News flash – it doesn’t work and really does nothing for me. Sure it’s a great way when you are in a relationship or just starting dating to kick things up a notch, but when a random person or someone you hardly know sends that phallic picture, what is it really supposed to do?
I am going to be joining a campaign soon and I will have to give up a form of social networking. Due to my facebook and twitter addition (follow me on FB at Dr Nikki Goldstein or Twitter on @Dr_NikkiG) I was encouraged to start a blendr addiction so I had something to give up. You know that website that is like grinder, and if you don’t know what grindr is then you have been living underneath a rock.
Without even asking, I have been sent numerous photos of men’s penises! I’m still not sure what they are trying to do with this. Is the penis supposed to impress me and make me want to date them (then why send me a pic of a small one?). In all seriousness, I like people for who they are and how they make me feel when I’m with them, not the size of their member. So why send it? It seems to me like this is the modern day male mating call. We no longer sniff each out or club each other over the head, we text a photo of the goods we have to give (or in some cases not so good).
We know how the saying goes, it’s not the size that matters it’s the motion of the ocean, but maybe there is some real truth in this. I don’t think its even the motion of the ocean. If 80% of women have clitoral orgasms, then does it even matter how big your snake is? If anything you should be sending photos of your mouth or hands.
I actually find these cock shots more entertaining than anything and for those who send them I’m going to be totally honest, girls (and I’m sure many men) do share them around!
When you send a photo like that, it no longer becomes your property. You are not asking the receiver to sign a confidentiality agreement and it does not self destruct in 10 seconds. It is there and it is theirs. Do not be upset when this photo makes the rounds. By pressing send, in a distant way you have approved it. Just think before you click!
I’m not dismissing of this practice although, after all it is one of the best things about an iphone! But if you are using it to court a female, I urge you not too! There is time for that later down the track! When you are trying to impress someone, dinner, flowers, even sweet text messages can work, but cock shots can work for booty calls not long-term relationships (but that’s what you might be after). I’m not sure Blendr is the right place to meet the love of your life. If you start by flashing your flesh and wanting the same in return, you run the risk of setting a pattern you might not want. I’m all up for nudity, but sometimes an unwanted or not asked for photo message is not always the answer.
And to all the men out there who do engage in this for dating measures, here is your tip – leave something for later. Keep a bit of mystery so she wants to see you to find out more. When you bare all, you are only setting yourself up to be judged physically and not mentally or emotionally. Do you want to be judged by the size and shape of your penis or the size and shape of your heart?
Finding out what a man’s penis is like is similar to a girl’s birthday or Christmas (or in some cases, Chanukah) it’s something we look forward to and enjoy the build up and anticipation of. Just as I don’t want to know what you got me for my birthday until I open it, same goes with your penis! Keep it a surprise till the time is right!
Happy sexting (without cock shots),
Dr NikkiG
